At school in WA, there are a small amount of kids who I used consider 'friends' that continuously make fun of my genuine interest in railways. They've made countless 'memes' about me (none of which have gone viral) and my interest in the hobby. And it's getting to the point now that its becoming an on going thing now. I also get a few racial remarks made to me (since Im a half cast between Australian and Fijian descents). And even though I tell these people that the interest of railways is much more than 'just a good train ride' (as they describe it), they don't listen and continue to bully and harass me, normally in front of everyone.
I thought I'd post on RP because Im sure a few other members have had these experiences before, and I'd like to listen to their advice.
So I'd like to know how to deal with these morons. Because I've tried ignoring them and it doesn't work. I've tried being sarcastic and it doesn't work. I've even tried agreeing with them and that doesn't work. And now, I really don't enjoy going to school because of it.
Any help would great, thanks.
So when they bully and harass you in front of everyone, what is everyone's reaction? Do they laugh and join in or is the reaction generally ambivalent and uncaring? They probably wont be invested enough to stand up for you, but hopefully they're not motivated enough to join in.
I'm no psychologist but it's probably best you tone down the whole railways loving thing then. Dont advertise it and give them any more ammo. Laugh it off and they'll eventually get tired. As for the racial thing, that's probably more a by product of the railway geek thing. Basically you MUST NOT REACT. Dont justify, reason or argue. Bullying is all about getting a reaction from you and any onlookers. If they get a reaction from you, it's hilarious and an added bonus if everyone else laughs and enjoys the moment. If you dont provide a reaction dollars to donuts the onlookers will grow bored very quickly and move on, and your bullies or friends or whatever will look to something else. Hopefully in your case, someone else.
Be friendly and open with your classmates and find other things to talk about. Leave the trains thing at home. If your Facebook pic is of a train, change it.
If it's only very recent then you might stand a chance but if this is a long term thing over several years then there's probably little you can do. Change schools. You only have once chance to make friends very early at a school and get accepted into a social clique or get ostracized and/or bullied.
Is there a school/student councilor you can see privately? They can give you better advice I'm sure. Dont go to your teachers or parents (at the very least it's a last resort), you'll be seen a dobber and that doesnt go down very well with kids.
Actually while I'm here, do your mates know they're being bullies and that you don't like it? Have you asked them to stop? It could be simple mucking around and you're making too big a deal of it.